September 6, 2008
So, I’ve been pontificating enough here, I want to shift gears a bit and go into facilitator mode.
there are times when I’ve responded to trolls for my own sanity, knowing they won’t listen. But that’s because I felt cornered, unsupported, etc, and in order to prevent damage within my head I have to argue/fight back–which is the real problem, right? The problem is that our ‘allies’ leave us out to dry when the shit hits the fan. (an entirely different context, and to mix metaphors, but still). The problem is that we don’t have the confidence to not do that–for good reason. [link]
What do we need, as trans female spectrum folks, as trans folks, and as cis allies, to not do that?
What do we need to feel secure?
What do we need for our activism to be sustainable?
What do we need in order to devote our energy to change rather than our own emotional survival?
What do we need for “fighting with cissexual feminists” to mean alongside not against?
What do we need to celebrate all of our (consensual) sexualities–no exceptions?
—while calling out the abuse of power, fetishization, objectification, disempowerment and ‘degrading’ evident in cissexual men’s porn featuring (but not about) trans women, and the s-word archetype as created for the pleasure of cis straight men?
—while simultaneously supporting those of us who identify with the s-word or reclaim it, or who depend on that system for survival?
—and calling out the appropriation, erasure, and just plain cluelessness re: trans misogyny that’s central to trans men’s porn projects, while supporting everyone’s efforts to produce positive images of their sexualities.
What do we need from our allies, and from each other?
Then, when we’ve got that, let’s go to feministing and demand it.
Let’s go to Feministe and feminist and demand it.
Let’s go to transgender and Alternet and demand it. Demand it of AlexTM, too. (hint: holding you accountable is not “hitting” you)
Let’s go to Gender Odyssey, FORGE Forward, and Philadelphia Trans Health Conference and demand it.
Let’s go to WPATH and demand it, or failing that doctors and therapists in our communities.
But let’s figure it out, first.